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September 1, 2014 – Some thoughts

 Even when you are having fun,

life slips by.

Even when you sulk around,

life slips by.

Even when you fall in love,

life slips by.

Even when you are sick and frail,

life slips by.

There’s no way to stop the time

you have in this one body.

You might as well hug yourself

and live in wondrous ways.

There’s no way to stop the time

you have in this one body.

So accept it well and live

today with all the secrets,

adventures, and

gifts to you alone.

Autumn Colors Personalize Designer Couch Pillow
Autumn Colors Personalize Designer Couch Pillow by Rascality
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Five Ways to Combat Worry

WorryWe are at war.  Everyday.  We are not even aware. We wake up and try to smile at the day ahead.  Almost immediately our dutiful brains remind us of challenges, old debates and grudges we continue to hold.  Tapes begin to play in our heads. We are not even aware of them.  We dress to disguise any trace of unrest, and get on with the day.

This worry, no matter how short-lived within our days, takes it toll on our bodies: our muscles, bones and organs; our blood pressure, blood sugar and ability to fight off infection. Often we engage in worrisome thoughts, emerging from one worry to another.  We think this is life.  We think we are destined to be concerned.  This is the adult thing to do.  But worry is a state that keeps us from our true happy selves.  Worry is a state that damages our body.  Worry is the war we need to win.  Here are five ways to replace worry with confidence, smiles and general, overall happiness.

  1. Look in the mirror every hour.

You can use a mirror or your iPhone/iPad/computer camera. Look carefully.  Each time you use the restroom, look, really look at your facial expression as you pass the mirror.  It may surprise you!  Where’s your smile?  Where’s your ease?  Where’s the person you think you are?  The answer is, probably lost in some concern or worry.  Easy enough fix!  As soon as you recognize the worry, let it go and turn it into a smile.

Hi there! you say to yourself as if to a best friend.  How’s it going!  I sure love you!.  Now that will get you smiling because you will feel foolish at first, but it will work.  The more you become friends with yourself, the stronger, more confident you will become.

Put your timer on and do a spot check every hour for the first week or two.  See if things won’t turn around almost immediately.

2.  When you catch yourself worrying, give it a category.

It is thought that there are three ways to handle worry.  One: see if you can change the situation.  Two: see if you can set yourself apart from the situation.  And, three: accept the situation and go on.

Once you hear yourself lost in a concern (and you may see yourself faster than hearing yourself, so use the mirror every hour), decide how you will proceed.  Stop the tapes immediately.  For example.  You see a worried person in the mirror and ask what is going on.  You’re thinking about a water bill that just came in the mail.  You decide to categorize the worry.  You choose to change the situation by going to your checkbook or computer and paying the water bill.  You have freed yourself from worry.

But what if you do not have funds for the water bill?  Then you will need to dig a bit deeper and see what situation is causing this.  Once you identify the situation, (perhaps you spent all your money on a party last week), then you need to change your way of living in the future to make room for your expenses.  You can forgive yourself for being human, call the water company and ask for an extension and then pay the bill.  If your situation is more complicated with lots of months or years of making decisions that cause you worry, then you will need to take one worry at a time and sort them into categories and act on each worry, one by one, until you find peace.

3.  Do something out of character.

When you live within the same situations every day, it is hard to find solutions for your worries.  Give yourself a new character when you find yourself worrying.  Put on a crazy hat or shirt. Put your plates where your drinking glasses are, and your glasses where your plates were.  Change things around and get your brain occupied with something other than chewing and re-chewing your current worry.  This is especially important when you have chosen to accept the situation or person who is causing you worry.  Put on some music and even listen to a type of music that you seldom hear.  Let the light in!  If you don’t wear shoes in the house, wear shoes.  If you don’t dress up in your house, dress up.  Do anything out of character and you’ll see an improvement.  The part of your brain previously sending feelings of worry, will stop sending the worries and pause long enough to listen for a different directive..  This is enough time \ sort out your worries in a happier state.  Quickly solve your concern and move on. Life will all of a sudden become fun.

4. Let nature calm you:  take a walk, stroll, or drive

Nature is a free gift that is everywhere.  Nature waits to calm you!  It’s just outside your door.  Sit with a flower, bush or tree.  If you are quiet enough, nature will speak to your heart and in no time at all you will be feeling great.  If you want to tell nature all about your concerns, go ahead.  In moments you’ll be putting them into the categories and feel 100% better.

Walking is good for your body and good for relieving stress caused by worry.  A walk a day can keep the doctor away!

5.  Forgive yourself and others daily

Once you start thinking about the process of forgiveness, you can take advantage of the extraordinary opportunity it provides.  Letting go of resentment is a powerful tool toward letting go of worry.  Resentment imprisons us. Worry provides us with feelings of resentment.  It compares our lives to others and resents that we do not have the surplus of funds that seems so available to our friends.  Resentment goes on and on.  It provides us with a zillion reason this is so unfair.  We are lost and victimized through resentment and the worries continue.

Forgiveness is an often misunderstood and therefore under-utilized.  Lose the resentment of others when you perceive you are being threatened or disrespected.  Lose the resentment of perceived situations resembling hard times.  Lose the resentment of self when you do not measure up to what you perceive you should be.  Forgive, forgive, forgive.  Be generous in your for-giving!

When you are doing your hourly mirror checks, take a moment to forgive whatever is going on in the moment.  Forgive yourself, others and situations and you will become stronger, able to achieve more and happier.

Practice these five methods to decrease worry in your life.  I hope they help you and I hope they help to make a better, happier world.  I welcome your comments.

Love,

Barbara

I know what I want to do when I grow up!

I woke up at 1:30 again last night.  Four-and-a-half-hours of sleep and I seem to need a break. So here comes a new line of designs, and at 4:00 I’m back to sleep to complete the 3 hours everyone says I need to keep my head on straight.

Last night I tried a little experiment to guide my dreams.  I wanted to take a very, very expensive vacation to a tropical paradise or just the oceanfront.  I never made it.  At least I don’t remember dreaming any such dream.  Isn’t that always the way.  Things just get by us without notice.

Today I’m going to try to watch closely for every opportunity of enjoyment, especially with others who come into my day.  I’m going to have a plush designer pillow of a day!

You know the old saying, keep your day job.  Okay, for now.  But I know what I want to do when I grow up!

Rascality Web Storefront Opened With Ease!

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I have been hit by the creative spirit addiction!  Weekends are now spent with stylus or even my fingers racing around the screen of an iPad or bamboo tablet.  Don’t get me wrong, this is most enjoyable.  Last night I could not sleep.  I had my handy iPad close by and I began to design whatever came to my mind.  ….nothing serious.  ….nothing pre-determined.  I just went with the flow and the flow took me for a fine ride.  I ended the time spent with the idea of creating cards with sentiments written within as the ones I would send.

So my newest store, Rascality, set up by Zazzle is coming along nicely.   I like their setup, page design and their support in making things look pretty organized.  If you are interested in putting your own “middle-of-the-night” creations up for all to see and even maybe purchase, go to Zazzle.com.  The service is free to you.  And if you are extraordinarily ambitious, you can embed your products on your own website and if someone purchase your goods, you’ll receive an additional 15%.  –at least that is my understanding.  I will have to see how this works as I go along.  I am happy, though, that I have a location to place the results of this new onset of creative energy!

I am linking my Rascality store if you have time today to visit.  Thanks for your support.

Best to you,

Barbara

Rascality

Sneak Preview of Monster Kid Stuff

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I know it’s summer and I should be lounging around a pool or beach somewhere, but you have to catch the creative spirit when it breezes through.  This store is inspired by my two grandchildren who keep me young and hopping.  I’m seeing them today and I’ll let them have a look and see if there is any interest.  I will bet they will want to participate in the designing of new shirts.  Imagine that!  We now have the technology and iPads to let our young ones design the clothing they will wear.  It keeps my head spinning with wonder.

Enjoy the day!

Addendum:  If you wish to visit my stores you can click here and here.

 

If I Am Honest

Comfort In My Own Skin

If I am honest….

My hands are big and bumpy with bulging veins.

My feet burn with mild throbbing, vibrating pains.

My stomach is unfeelingly large, old and lazy.

My vision blurs in and out and mostly hazy.

My arms are achy but able to lift.

My hair is thinning.  My scalp adrift.

My nose is large and itchy,  fighting to take over my face.

My memory plays tricks, hiding keys, taking a date to a different place.

My teeth vibrate with mild discomfort, disliking the dentist who brings more hurt.

My legs are swollen, marbled with veins. Is that the result of too much dessert?

My ears can hear, my nose smell, my eyes see, my tongue taste, my hands can feel.

I am in fine shape at 68, though if you ask me most days, I’d say not ideal.

 

So what happened to that girl of twenty-three, who loved and dreamed with glee?

Did she use her body to love them all?  Did she find the magic key?

Was she able to change the world with her love? Did she make the best of choices?

Did she take the roads less traveled?  Did she listen to her inner voices?

 

Am I like the Velveteen Rabbit who gave its all for love? You know,

I think I am.  I have been faithful throughout my life, now I’m ready to let go.

It’s not that I will die today,  tomorrow or the next, I have much more to give,

Let this  be a time to share, give thanks, receive, forgive.

It’s time to celebrate the life together and feel the goodness of all that has been.

So I won’t measure myself against celebrities and I’ll be comfortable in my own skin.

— Barbara Dean Aliaga